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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Boyfriend of 8 months is extremely kind, consistent, reliable, and genuine. He's not particularly emotionally expressive. We've shared about our love languages (his is physical touch and mine is words of affirmation). I'm really good about physical touch with/for him (both sexual and non-sexual), but he doesn't freely share his feelings about me unless I bring it up or ask.

He has said he adores me and cares about me after I've brought it up, but I don't want to have to ask for that every time and I've told him it's important to me. I'm also good about modeling it (I tell him he's means a lot to me, for example). He's wonderful about giving general compliments such as, "you're amazing, you're beautiful, you're so gracious, etc". However, I don't like sharing my heart/mind/body with someone who can't or won't say how they feel about me.

Is the problem with me- are my expectations unrealistic? Or is this worth breaking up over?

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One thing to keep in mind is that men who are good with words about feelings aren't good with them for your sake.  They are just generally good with words, for EVERYONE.  They've said these words of affirmation a thousand times to a thousand women.  It's not special whatsoever.  Certainly it is much better to have a man who behaves well rather than talks well. [/quote]

Wrong. My husband is good with words about feelings for everybody, but he’s not going around telling everybody “you are such an incredible person,” “I’m so happy i have you in my life,” “I love you so dang much,” “I just love to snuggle you,” etc. He wants a certain level of emotional intimacy with lots of people but he doesn’t develop that emotional intimacy nearly as much as he does with me.  I mean maybe he did with women in the past but that’s not relevant at all to our relationship . [/quote]

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