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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yikes at this thread. Never get married fellas![/quote]

Yikes at this thread. Never give up your job to stay home, ladies! You need to look out for number one. [/quote]

Well, the problem is, the SAHM role does not get enough respect.  Think of the myriad jobs a SAHM does and consider all the people you hire to replace what a SAHM does.  I sometimes feel as though the feminist movement eliminated SAHM as a choice for women in that the concept of alimony seems to have gone away.  IMO this role should be a viable option for a man or a woman and it should be protected under the law.  A woman or man dosesn't stay home with the kids without the consent of the other partner.  That was a choice that partner also made, and the consequences of one partner out of the workforce should not be a burden only that one person has to bear.[/quote]

I think you’re wrong about consent for staying home. I know lots of families where the working spouse does not want the other spouse to be SAH. Heck, read DCUM. I think people acquiesce be wise they get tired of arguing about it. But that’s different than consent. [/quote]

That was my situation. Now exW took years off, even when we didn't have kids. And she didn't use her time at home to take care of the house or the children. One year while she was not working DD spent the year in all-day day care. Her not working was a huge source of stress in my life. 
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And for situations like this you could have signed a postnup stating that she refuses alimony if 1) there are no kids or 2)she doesnt' go back to work after getting her degree

My situation was totally different: autistic SN child, calls from school almost every week  when son beat somebody up or reading diagonally, driving to therapies etc. Even policy was called to our house when our 12 yo became violent and locked us out destroying furniture inside.
 ExH insisted I didn't work. Then "upgraded" me in 15 years when son's mental health improved[/quote]

Just to be clear, my exW didn't need training to go back to work. She had a PhD in statistics. She was just lazy, and was happy to have another person to adult things. [/quote]

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