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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is her decision that she will have to live with the rest of her life. It is very possible she may feel guilt afterwards for not being there, in which unfortunately she will have to live the rest of her life with that guilt. [/quote]

I was the  primary  caretaker of my MIL for several years.  The last two weeks of her life I just  couldn't handle watching her dye.  My husband was there and it really traumatized him.  I am glad I wasn't there and I'm sure she'd understand.[b]  Its not about being  there  when someone is dead, but about being there when they are  alive. [/b] OP should support her sister on vacation and be the primary caretaker while she's gone.  Seems simple enough to me.[/quote]

It's possible that the sister, who has visited her dad daily for three months, won't feel guilty at all.  She was there for him every day.  Maybe OP can step up while her sister takes what I'm sure is a much-needed break.  Maybe OP will feel guilty for using her baby as an excuse for letting her sister do the lion's share of the work supporting their parents.[/quote]

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