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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I assume my kids will eventually find out that I cheated, but then they will also learn more details about how for decades before that their dad abused me. Right now we both keep both quiet and coparent well. I wish I didn’t make the mistake of cheating but also was too broken of a human from his abuse. I would be glad to admit to my kids all I learned in hopes of helping them avoid mistakes I made. Life isn’t linear and sometimes we have to make mistakes to learn and grow. Teaching your kids that everything is black and white is doing them the biggest disservice of all.[/quote] The problem with this approach is that because you didn’t tell them the truth about the cheating, they are unlikely to believe the truth about the abuse. Unless he is abusing them too, in which case they might understand more. People believe truths that are in front of them, and they tend to believe people who have a history of being truthful. [/quote]
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