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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It boggles my mind that so many of you believe that your family owes you free childcare and free house work.  Your family owes you nothing.  You chose your life, live with it.

I was a SAHM until my youngest was in 3rd grade and so many of you were like parasites in trying to foist your kids on me for free childcare.  One woman used to send her kids over because they were hungry!  They are your children and you take care of them![/quote]

Bitter much?[/quote]

Not even remotely.  I let everyone of the.lazy, parasite mothers that in future I was available to keep their children for $50/hour per child and feeding them was an additional $50 per hour per child, paid in cash in advance.  Cheap mothers never bothered me again.[/quote]

I have no idea what this had to do with having family around to help with kids. Many families want to help each other out and have a level of trust that you can't immediately get by hiring random people for every circumstance. In addition, nearby family can be a safety net for urgent needs (not full-time care). You know how when you love someone and are willing to help them out if they are in a crisis because that's what kind people do?

Not everyone can have a full-time nanny who continues while the kids are in school plus a housekeeper. If you don't have full-time staff, it's not easy to have a backup, backup childcare provider readily available. [/quote]

So SAHM should be your free babysitter and free food for neighborhood children?  I don't think so.  I would never have sent my children to neighbor's house saying, "My mom sent me over to play and eat lunch with Larlo/larla.  Every week one mother needed me to pick up her kid and keep him until she "could pick him up which would be after 9 or 10 pm.". No.  Your kid is not my responsibility.  A true emergency is not meeting client for drinks and dinner.

My point is that far too many of you take advantage of neighbors/friends so you probably treat your relatives like maids.[/quote]

Uh...no. The PP's point was that family help is multidimensional and not just about being owed or taking advantage of people. My mom was a SAHM so she didn't have issues with school closure childcare or whatever, but did find it hard not to have anyone around to help make day to day life a little easier like many of her friends with willing parents did in a variety of ways. She and I bond over this sometimes, I wasnt able to find a job in the rural area where I grew up so yes, my choices took me far away, but it would be nice to be closer. [/quote]

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