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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can tell the difference between a private school kid and  a public school kid, regardless of HHI,  in less than 10 minutes, probably less than 5.  There is always a tell and it has to do with manners, confidence, speech, dress and behavior.  Anyone who has spent enough time on top tier privates can do the same. [b]It’s just something private school kids have that public school kids don’t.[/b] [/quote]

My public school kid played high-level travel sports with a lot of WCAC kids.  They were in our house frequently, and their families hosted DS, and they got along well.  The kids were all well-mannered, respectful toward adults, and empathetic toward other kids' family/economic situations.  This was actually kind of a core value of their group.  In terms of the team, travel was mostly paid by sponsors and any remaining expenses were picked up for the team by families who could afford it, so cost to the kids was minimal.  Socially, our kid invited friends to our lake house or our cabin in the mountains and private school peers invited kids to their beach houses, but they were sensitive to not suggest activities that kids without money couldn't do.  When families hosted kids, the families paid and organized transportation, so no one was left out because they couldn't pay. This was taken for granted by all the kids/families.

Since starting at a highly selective, wealthy SLAC, DC has come to despise many of his classmates who are alums of private high schools in NY or CA because of an extreme lack of empathy.  Kids do things like mocking kids on work-study or mocking kids who have to take out loans.  It's pretty appalling.  We're DC middle class, so we don't move a lot in wealthy circles, but in my limited experience, this sort of contempt for others based on money is not something I've seen among wealthy people in SC where I grew up or in the DMV.   [/quote]

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