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[quote=Anonymous]Different take: I had an extremely “dysfunctional” home life for my entire childhood and I think can it makes me less sympathetic to those with dysfunctional behaviors than someone with a normal family otherwise would be.  I made a conscious choice to refuse to let what happened in my childhood define the rest of my life. I draw strong boundaries and purposefully choose not to meditate on the past all day.  I have bad days sometimes as anyone would but I believe in stoicism and the idea that I can only control my reaction, not other people or random tragedy.

In contrast I have some acquaintances who are in never ending therapy for what are ostensibly less traumatic pasts and just cannot get perspective or learn to carry what happened to them in a way that doesn’t define them. I don’t enjoy listening to them constantly over analyze.  I think some therapy is useful but I don’t know that the current push for therapy as the panacea is really the correct path for everyone - for some it just leads to endless rumination. I try to be kind but it is exhausting to listen to. On the other hand, i have little to no patience for people who use the past/hard times as an excuse to be mean to others. I lived a slow motion tragedy every day for decades and never used it as an excuse to be mean.[/quote]

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