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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If life will be so much worse post-divorce, then call off the divorce and stay married.  Otherwise the whining gets really tedious.[/quote]

I’m not whining and as I’ve noted in my initial post, I rarely if ever discuss my concerns with my friends. Prior to my divorce, I didn’t discuss my situation with many people at all. It was a source of tremendous shame and sadness. I didn’t want to be judged. I kept/keep all of that for my therapist.

At the same time, for example, people will ask how I’m doing or ask how I’m feeling. On a rare occasion with my closest friends, I answer that honestly. Usually that answer is a mix of relief and sadness and worry. I don’t think that mixture is a strange one for people in my place and I’m confident aspects of that will shift with time.

That said, when people respond with statements like the ones I’ve shared, it can be hard to hear. But yes, grateful for my friends and also appreciate the posters who’ve reminded me their intent is what matters. [/quote]

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