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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I had a similar situation with friends during my divorce. One of them always told that my ExH and I would not even divorce and will always be together. While I was fighting him in courts.

I just told them the topic of my divorce is off the table and I didn’t want to discuss anything related to him with my friends.

OP, how did you manage to marry such a guy ? I would work with a therapist addressing the issues that made you marry him in the first place. [/quote]

Curious, would you suggest to a woman who was raped to work with a therapist to address the issues that made the guy rape her?[/quote]
That is a really odd analogy. [/quote]

It is not an odd analogy.

If I beat you up, it's not your fault for not taking a karate class since age 6, although that sure would help avoid the situation.
If I get into your house and steal your valuables, it's not your fault for not having triple alarms and 5 pitbulls around, although that sure would help avoid the situation.

All this therapy talk is women trying to tell themselves that this would never happen to them, because they are somehow immune - they did not grow up with abusive parents or whatever it us that they think protects them. The only thing that can protect you is the ability to walk away, which is what OP is already doing.  No need to pile up.[/quote]

There is a huge difference between events of rape and home invasion versus a well-off woman living with an alcoholic. Or marrying an alcoholic or someone who didn’t appear like he would be a great partner from get go. Marriage abs staying in it for years, birthing children  is within OP control. Attracts from strangers are outside her control. [/quote]

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