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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why do parents still tie giving money to their children and their children's weddings? What if a child never gets married?

Also, the talk of "covering your plate" is gross[/quote]

Um, parents often give their adult sons and daughters a monetary gift to be used for a down payment, a wedding, a trip, a car, savings. Why are you acting like people only give money for a wedding, [b]or that everyone gives these types of gifts at all?[/b][/quote]

I have no idea how my comment is suggesting that to you or why you'd even think anyone would suggest that.

When people here talk about their weddings or their children's weddings, they often say that the parents used that as an occasion to offer them money that they could spend as they wished. And what I wonder is why a wedding inspires this sort of generosity -- if I were an older, unmarried sibling, I might feel as though my parents think getting married is the only way to show someone is an adult. Similarly, parents talk about planning ahead for a wedding, saving for years to be able to pay for a party. It's weird.

My parents paid for my wedding and for my sister's, and my mom gave my brother money for his. We have another sibling who is probably never going to get married, and I don't see why he shouldn't get a few thousand dollars to keep him warm at night. (I would never tell my mother how to spend her money, but I can't stop wondering if he's bothered -- I assume he is)[/quote]

I dunno, I'm the unmarried sister in my family, and I don't at all grudge my sisters' the amounts my parents spent on their weddings.  My parents have paid for other things unique to my life that were expensive and they didn't make sure to give my sisters exactly the same cash gifts at the time.  Parental gifts are appropriate to the financial circumstances of the family and season of life the child is in.  We don't have to always receive exactly the same things all the time when we're living different lives.[/quote]

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