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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Like everything, the best route is probably a middle ground.  I do know what OP means; it seems like many people on here have strong reactions to any pushing whatsoever (and assume that parents are inappropriately pushing in may circumstances, e.g., simply because a child is in a travel sport).  We have friends who sign their kids up for swimming lessons, the kids don't like it, and they let them off the hook.  Or friends who let their kids constantly drop out of things soon after they start.  I personally feel that kids do need some pushing - I think it's hard for anyone to really know if they like something until they give it a legitimate try (like ice skating, it's hard and painful at first, you have to give it some time).  I also think there are many times when it's ok to push a kid to do their best, set expectations, etc.  But, of course there should be balance - no one wants a crazy parent.  My impression is that most parents are somewhere in the middle, and are generally within range of what is good, solid parenting.[/quote]

AHH I'm a figure skating parent here and I do agree you shouldn't let your kids bail out of *everything* when they have a bad experience but I don't think ice skating is a good example. Maybe you are just using it as an analogy but I cringe so much when I parents make their kids skate when they are clearly in pain and miserable. I'm a pretty good skater and I start to get really uncomfortable after fifteen minutes and it downright hurts after twenty. The kids who do well in figure skating, the ones I know, are the ones who refuse to get off the ice when it gets uncomfortable. It's like they are having so into it they don't care about the pain. I've spoken to dozens of ice skating moms and we all agree that you absolutely cannot push figure skating. Some sports are truly painful and parents shouldn't push them (unless it's something like they have a lessons scheduled and don't want to wake up for it). [/quote]

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