Reply to How to marry a financially compatible man?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "How to marry a financially compatible man?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You need to grow up. I am early 40s divorced with kids. I make double your salary but do not have your wealth. My ex husband makes the same and would not even look at you and he is below the standards you set. You need a reality check. The chances of you finding wealth from a man in a second marriage is less than one percent. [/quote]

I don’t know how anyone making 600k/year (and 1.2m/year jointly) for years would not have at least $3mm net worth. It means you and your exH were terrible managing your money and assets. I would not want someone who’s wasteful and wouldn’t look at your exH either [/quote]

I’m talking about salary only in terms of income because that is all we have. I read that OP makes 100k (salary). I am only making 200k for the first time this year. I was making a little over 100 most of my career. My ex husband makes about the same— but with two jobs one being a federal employee. Our total income while married was 250-300 K a year. My ex-husband who earns just under 200k a year would not be interested in you is my point… if someone making that amount of money is not going to be interested in you someone who’s making a lot more money certainly isn’t going to be interested. [/quote]

You can't tell for your exH who is interesting for him and who's not. Not every 40+ man with children looks for another marriage with kids. My exH prefers dating women his age or slightly younger because the last thing he wants is to deal with a toddler approaching age of 60. But I do agree that my options at 40+ would be more limited than my options at 30+. I can "waive" the height (can be shorter than me), looks (can have a belly as long is not too overweight and is good in bed, doens't need to run every 2 other days etc),  no kids requirements.

I am not a trust fund heir. Being the first generation immigrant, I've built my real estate business over 10 years of hard work. In fact, it was "my" business my exH was primarily focused on his corporate career but when I filed for divorce he fought for the business like crazy. Our joint assets were worth around $10mm at the time of divorce, I got slightly less than that after legal fees and had to refinance one of the income properties to keep it. He retained his job 401K, eventually agreeing to "horse traded" assets as he couldn't really focus on the business going forward due to being tied at corporate career.

But I have a very good education (NY Bar) so after divorce I easily secured a position at 100k/year during the pandemic. I don't need to working making W2 salary, my business income would be enough to live rather comfortably. But this extra 100K makes up for the second lost income after divorce. Sorry but your salary of 100K for years even with the recent 200K is just not impressive to me as a female entrepreneur. It's highly insecure to have one source of income and no assets for cushion.

[/quote]

I know because he does not (1) date women who waste money (2) she only actually earns 100k from working. She screams lazy and entitled. He does not waste money. She does. He also will never remarry. He makes less than her “requirements” and still would not give her the time of day.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics