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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Man, a lot of people on this board just do not care about others. Personally I would be happy to accommodate this request. No, the other person does not have an obligation to stop bringing the snack, but it's a fairly small thing one caretaker can do to make another a little less anxious. I don't think it's that big of a deal to ask. [/quote]

it isnt about not caring, it is absolutely an ineffective way to reduce allergy exposure and gives allergy parents a false sense of control. nut free schools have more incidents compared to non-nut free schools because they rely on no nuts vs other mitigation techniques 
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Why can't it be both? It's easy enough to care for others and also help parents of young children learn to mitigate exposure. It's really not a big deal and the caretakers might get to know each other better. [/quote]

nope sorry, your feel good feelings dont actually reduce risk. it makes parents and kids more comfortable and less diligent and thats where mistakes happen. Oh Carol I asked our baker about nuts for the cupcakes and they are nut free- not understanding that it has to be a nut free facility  AND susie homemaker cupcakes were made in the same kitchen she made her kids PBJ that morning.

OP- if your son has a life threatening peanut allergy look into the allergy dogs that can sniff nuts, even trace amounts.

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You have a nasty attitude. Must be lonely to move through the world thinking that no one should help you or even deserves to help you. [/quote]

NP. I have two kids with severe nut allergies, and the PP is absolutely right. There are so many nuances that it’s actually more dangerous to have well-meaning people think they know who do not know. For example, my ILs neighbor brought over unlabeled cookies from a bakery and said “I asked if there was nuts in these, and they said no, so their safe” and MIL/FIL exclaim oh how nice and start to hand them to my girls and DH and I had to intervene, saying unless the bakery is nut-free and also does not use nut oils, etc., we have to check first. When we called the bakery said yes it’s all shared equipment, we don’t consider anything to be nut-safe. Or my cousin hosted a BBQ and bought hot dog buns that “May Contain Tree Nuts.” If I hadn’t read the labels, it could have been a problem—she knows about the allergy and didn’t know to check hot dog labels, etc.

So the only safe way to raise my girls is:
A) We don’t share snacks with other kids; if a kid offers you food, you check with mom and dad, ask the adult to read the label
B) Even if a grown-up offers you the snack, check with mom and dad or your teacher/daycare teacher and ask them to read the labels
C) I send my kids to school/daycare/play dates with their own back-up snacks, so they are never left out even if Billy brings in cupcakes for his class party, we still have nut-safe individually wrapped brownies or fruit snacks as a treat instead
D) I tell all the adults in my life that it is a good thing to never offer a snack directly to a kid; offer it to the adult in charge of the kid first

Some adults, even our dear family and friends, think they know, but demonstrate that “oh I didn’t realize I had to check what brand of chocolate chips I use in the cookies.” They mean well, but they don’t get it. The more people who think they know but actually don’t is actually a problem.[/quote]

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