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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I’m not recently divorced. It’s a hard and sad process, but there’s also a lot of peace that comes with it. This is the beginning of a wonderful new chapter of you. You are going to love your new found freedom, and the return of your mental and emotional energy. Best of luck to you! You should be proud of yourself.[/quote]

OP. I’m excited for this. There’s a lot I’ve been wanting to do - get some certifications, expand my side hustle - but I was so consumed with trying to make his life as stress-free as possible. Even just getting an extra hour of sleep now will be amazing. [/quote]

I'm not sure how you think you're going to have MORE free time if you are a single mom with full custody of your two children.

Also, it's not clear from your posts - have you TRIED to get your husband treatment (mental health or alcohol/drug treatment)? Or were his previous attempts at quitting done on his own? Personally, I might try inpatient treatment first before divorce, but obviously that is your decision.[/quote]

I want to clarify that I know it's not your responsibility to "get him treatment" and that was a poor choice of words. I should have said - is he open to the idea of getting counseling and treatment for his addiction(s)?[/quote]

OP. He says he will. But I don’t have the bandwidth to manage that. I don’t want to nag him about when he’s going, I don’t want to constantly check in if he went to therapy, I don’t want to constantly coordinate with him. I don’t want him using “get treatment” as just a box to check to keep me around. If he truly feels he needs treatment, he will get it without me. If he only does treatment under the condition that we stay together, then I know he wasn’t serious about it. [/quote]

It sounds like nagging is part of the problem here. You’ve turned into his mom and he’s rebelling. You need to evolve and shift this dynamic. [/quote]

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