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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When I was pregnant with DC2 SIL and BIL saw us occasionally throughout the pregnancy and did not ask one question about it. The actually actively dominated every conversation and pretty much talked exclusively about themselves...They occasionally asked us questions, but never about the pregnancy. They also never congratulated us after the birth and basically that's the status quo... It's almost like we never had a DC2. SIL and I were pregnant at the same time with our DC1s and we were in communication somewhat regularly, so I thought that when I was pregnant with DC2 that she and BIL would act similarly and inquire about how things were going when we saw them at family events. Obviously that didn't happen and I'm still hurt, especially because I had life threatening complications during the pregnancy and a miscarriage before conceiving DC2.

Anyway, SIL is pregnant with her DC2 and has started texting DH's entire family updates. I said congrats to the initial "OMGGGG! CAN'T BELIEVE I'M PREGNANT!! IT'S AMAZING. WE ARE ALL OVERJOYED!!!" text, [b]but don't want to respond to any of her other updates. Can I feel good about this[/b]?[/quote]

One thing other people have not talked about a lot:
1. Of course you can "not respond" to any message in a group text with any group of people at any time on any topic.  This is common.  You do you.  People do not spend their time and energy fixated on who "hearted" their post and who didn't.
2. If you choose not to respond, you do not get to feel "good" about it in the sense that you are somehow acting out of justice and avenging what you see as a wrong that was one to you.  You just feel....neutral...like you feel when you make any tiny insignificant decision in life.[/quote]

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What is your question? How can I help clarify for you?[/quote]

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