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[quote=Anonymous]I graduated from Princeton way back in the late 00s when there was no pandemic closures or anything, I just messed up a course credit transfer and was short a credit at graduation and had to take one more credit over the summer. I think the date on my diploma is some random day when the registrar finally processed my credit. I walked with my class but my mom made it clear that she would not be celebrating my graduation and that I had caused her deep shame. She still cries during graduation season and will call me and say “you never gave me the gradation I deserved!”. I was not first generation college and I paid for school with loans and grants, so it’s not like she paid for it. Anyway, it was not normal to not graduate with your class at Princeton at the time and my mom still refuses to talk about anything from that era because I embarrassed her.

Your nephew may or may not be in a similar situation. You can bring it up 1:1 with him but definitely not in a large group or in front of his mom! Sounds like she is a lot to handle and whatever his situation is- good, bad, neutral- she sees it as a negative.

I would have appreciated a kind person acknowledging the weirdness to me, helping me talk through my disappointment (in myself, the situation, and my mom’s reaction), and giving me an anecdote or two about speed bumps that they encountered in their own adult life.[/quote]

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