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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can’t use just a mediator, you need to have an attorney, too. A mediator won’t have your best interest in mind.

I wouldn’t go by what a friend says. My xH had multiple attorney friends who told him all kinds of crazy things, like if he totaled up everything spent on me during our marriage, a judge would force me to pay that back (obviously not true).

Alimony is unlikely, but depends on the state you are in and the judge you get.

You might be able to stay in the house but you’ll have to pay the mortgage. Can you afford that? [/quote]

OP here. He's not a friend. He is someone a family member introduced me to. Why is alimony unlikely after 12 years of marriage? Because of his income? It seems it would be more likely before I finish college than waiting until after I finish. I have moved all over the country supporting him while he got a Ph.D., contracting jobs, etc etc. [/quote]

Is this a family law attorney? You need to consult with multiple family law attorneys. They will all tell you something different, and usually if it sounds too good to be true, it is.

Alimony is rarely granted nowadays. A judge does not care that you moved across the country for him. BTDT. They just say to go get a job. You may be able to get a little bit of money to support you while you finish school but that’s it. The fantasy that you’ll get to live in your house while your H pays the mortgage is just that - fantasy. I lived in a 1 bedroom apartment after my divorce. [/quote]

+1 This is exactly what I was trying to tell the lady on the other thread. [/quote]

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