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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP. I find the framing pretty interesting. Paraphrasing: “If someone takes it too far I just mention I’m married or my husband.”  Why is the answer simply not “I’m not interested”?

It’s almost like the same women who will talk however they want to whoever they want lose all agency the moment they’re confronted with the conflict and instead rely on their relational status to a man to resolve the conflict.

The simple rule is the still the best. If you wouldn’t behave that way if your spouse was present then you shouldn’t do it just because your spouse isn’t there. [/quote]

I think you are missing my point.  I WOULD behave the same way if my husband was present.  All I am doing engaging in conversation with smiling and laughing.  If my husband is present, that makes it easier for men to understand I’m not available, but if he isn’t i bring it up. The answer is that it is nicer to me to mention my husband and continue having a conversation because it draws a boundary without rudely cutting someone off and saying “I’m not interested in you or conversation with you.”[/quote]

This thread is right: men can’t handle rejection.

But there is a related point this response illustrates (and the one right after it):  women can’t handle rejecting men.

A lot of the issues OP’s question gets at rest within the gray area of BOTH genders not being direct.

Related question, would it not be equally nice to others to never allow them the misunderstanding that you may be interested in the first place.  I just don’t get the “I’ll talk to whoever I want however I want, but I would never be direct about my lack of interest and instead I’ll be nice by sending a signal that I’m married which doesn’t actually conclusively establish the point I’m trying to make.”

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