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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What are the other members of the wedding party doing about the dress?  And if you buy the new dress is the other bridesmaid on board or will she flake again - doesn’t sound very committed. Buying a second dress is bad but buying it if no one else does or if the flakey bridesmaid doesn’t would be so much worse. [/quote]
I don’t know the other three. Never met or talked to them before, so I don’t know if the flakey bridesmaid will flake on this dress too. Totally possible.[/quote]

For harmony's sake I’d probably stay in the wedding (knowing it’s merely to be a kind person) but give some pushback so this doesn’t become the top of the iceberg for her demands.  Ask her to confirm the others have their dresses in hand before you’ll purchase a second dress. Tell her you don’t have the bandwidth for big adjustments now so you can set the stage to decline anything else.

This gets you off the hook for a big shower or bachelorette expense though.  Claim you had to use the funds you’d allotted for the second dress she requested.[/quote]
The bachelorette party is another mess. I told her upfront before even accepting the MOH gig that I don’t have the bandwidth to plan a bachelorette party and why. She said she totally understood and then she put me on the spot by asking me on a group chat with the whole bridal party “when” the party would be. I’ve laid low on that one, but that’s the next drama brewing. There’s just a lot and I’m tired of all the rolling over to keep the peace that I’ve been. She just keep ratcheting up the demands.[/quote]

I was a bridesmaid for a bridezilla like this. I was truly happy for her so I bought her an engagement gift. Then came the shower, the bachelorette weekend in the Hamptons, the bridesmaid dress and hair, the wedding gift… Theyre divorced now. But that’s irrelevant. The wedding costs broke me and were all about bridezilla. You know there’s going to be an expensive shower and then bachelorette night or weekend. She does not accept your “no” or “I can’t do this.” You can see where this is all going. Make your decision now.[/quote]
You and I are similar. I’m sorry you went through all that. I was genuinely happy for her when she told me she was engaged. I was the only person to buy her and her fiancé an engagement gift—she told me so. Then came trying to strong arm me into expense after expense. Professional makeup/hair, expensive hotel, bachelorette party, now two bridesmaids dresses. She referred to a rehearsal dinner last week, even though she said his parents aren’t paying for anything. She never just casually mentions anything without springing a scheme next and I have a feeling I won’t like who she plans to have foot the bill…. This is all going to come to a head eventually, so might as well make it now before she’s emptied my pockets.[/quote]

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