Reply to DH pushing me to be closer with MIL

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "DH pushing me to be closer with MIL"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Imagine if the tables were turned... Let's say my dad likes to go fishing and keeps hinting that he wants my husband to come. My husband has no interest in this. I ask him to take one for the team to make my dad happy and thus make me happy. He says he will not perform emotional labor because he dislikes my (perfectly civil) father. What say you DCUM? [/quote]

This actually happened with my father and my DH.  My father liked to fish - had a boat in Florida where he wintered and one in Indiana where he spent the rest of his time.  My sister's DH loves to fish and he and our father spent a lot of time on the boats.  My DH was invited and my father would have loved for him to come but I didn't push my DH to do it.  I respected that my DH wasn't interested and my father didn't take it personally.  My DH never spent 1:1 time with my father unless they were doing work around the house.  They're both handy and when a task needed to be done, they had no problem working on it together.  The focus was on the task and any conversations they had were superficial (sports, the best way to level something, etc.).  It was enough for my father that my DH was a good partner and good father.

Oh, and when my father died, my sister's DH got both boats.  DH and I were happy for him to get them.[/quote]

PP, you and your family sound very sane and civil! Thank you, you are giving me hope in DCUM and humanity in general, lol[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics