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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I feel your pain. in my family, after my grandfather passed 20 years ago, my grandmother sold a very valuable ocean view lot for a pittance. She didn't need the money one bit. She kept other less valuable properties. It was one of those situations where one should not make decisions when one is grieving. She was sad about the house that my grandfather wanted to build so she just sold it. Many in the family would have bought it, she didn't even give anyone a chance.

That lot today, in a very, very desirable beach area that is protected from climate change and whatnot due to the location. It remained undeveloped for decades. When it was finally sold, it went for $1.5m. As an undeveloped lot. To this day it still kills me. I've not gotten over it after 20 years. It doesn't help that the location remains my favorite vacation destination. [/quote]

[b]This is 100% on you. If it weren’t this, you would find something else to be upset about. Guaranteed.[/b] [/quote]

Thanks for projecting, but sorry, you're wrong. I'm the PP you are referring to and I guess you would deem my entire extended family of pretty normal, functional people as somehow flawed because many of us feel the same way about the loss of the lot. We used to picnic there when we vacationed in the town and my grandfather would talk about the house plans he'd drafted (he was an architect).  
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NP. You're not reading clearly. Nobody is criticizing other children about being nostalgic over their childhood, missing the fact that you used to do something fun, or longing for what you remember as good times of the past. That's fine. I mean, it's sad that you don't have it or are focused on it to that extent if it makes you sad, but nobody really cares.

People do judge you for resenting other people over that, or for thinking they should have the same feelings as you. For being salty that other people didn't spend money so that you could keep what you wanted, even if it wasn't what you wanted. That's worth judgment. You earned it. Not for nostalgia, but for being a bit of a prick and trying to clothe it in "oh, I just looooove the past, don't be mean."

Love the past. Let other people love other things, and don't expect you have privileged access to money they worked for. That's all.[/quote]

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