Reply to Mentally Ill Sister Having a Baby

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Mentally Ill Sister Having a Baby"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's just unclear what the OP wanted here. The explicit question was, how did it turn out for your mentally ill family member who had a baby? Fair enough, I have many examples. I have a family member with bipolar who raised a now-adult son. She has been given the best care available and been supported endlessly by her husband for 40+ years. She was employed, raised two kids, and in a strong relationship for most of her life. Now elderly, she is a terrific grandma.

I got negative stories too. The issue with OP is that she gave a lot of extra details that show all she really wanted was validation and confirmation of her view along the lines of " how irresponsible of your mentally ill sister to have a baby, how terrible," and etc. Also her details of "on the spectrum" and "electroshock therapy" and " in institutions" and " on lithium" and "violent" ... ugh, I am just not sure. The OP is what you call an unreliable narrator.

The unreliable narrator makes you believe a story is about one thing, but really it is about something else. The unreliable narrator also gets you to abandon moral principles, such as the idea that disabled people have rights. The good readers in this thread picked up on all of that.[/quote]

Exactly. I don’t think most posters in this thread are trying to hand wave away the damage that can be done to children being raised by unstable parents. I’ve lived it myself.

It’s just that with every detail OP adds to the thread, it becomes increasingly clear the sister is the family scapegoat and OP’s side of the story becomes murkier and murkier. OP should focus on her own life- that will benefit herself and her sister. There is nothing OP can do, and it doesn’t sound like OP would ever need to anything anyway- she said the sister’s doing better lately and she has strong family-in-law. Like a PP said, the thread title makes it seem like she’s living under a bridge or in and out of institutions in the present day. That’s not the case. Sorry you can’t rally an army of angry validators when from everything you say, OP, your sister has gotten her life out of the hands of those who can only view her as the bad seed and on to the right track. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics