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OP, this meeting is very likely for the school's benefit, not yours, not the other family's, not the kids'. As a PP already said, it will allow the school to say, we got the parents together, it was amicable, families at this school talk things out, we're proactive about facilitating discussion here, etc. That's not about your child, it's about the school wanting to create a record that it had this meeting.

Just because you agreed to meet does not mean you now are locked into meeting. No one will punish you or your child somehow if you cancel.

Please listen to the posts above saying that the whole idea of this meeting seems unusual, and like a cover-our-backsides move by the school. You can't have that many weeks of school left. The school knows there's an issue between the kids and anything that happens in the next few weeks is going to be watched (one hopes). A meeting now is not going to have enough time left in the year to alter the bully's behavior. Focus instead on talking up the new school to your child.

I get the idea of being curious what the other parents and/or the school officials would say, I really do. I think it's just a normal human reaction to be curious in this case. I might, at a gut level, be frankly curious about what the bully's parents were like. But I wouldn't let that prod me to say yes to this meeting. It really can't change things, can't change the past bullying for sure, and won't create some magical cure for the other child's behavior this late in the game. You're out of there and don't owe the school or the other family a face to face on this. 
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I don’t disagree with anything you are saying here, but neither you nor anyone else on here has articulated why the meeting could be harmful to OP or her child. OP doesn’t need to care if the school’s motives are self-serving since she’s leaving, and OP’s child has already put up with the bullying all year, so I expect the family is prepared to accept the meeting won’t change anything.  I would want to go just to hear what the school or the other family had to say if for no other reason than to be in a position to share my thoughts about how the school handled it with friends or acquaintances who may be choosing between it and others. [/quote]
Out of all the reasoning and advise I’ve seen on threads, this one has to be the worst. [/quote]

DP.  I agree with that poster.  There are lots of posts on this thread saying that OP shouldn't go to this meeting.  But they aren't saying why.

OP cannot be harmed by this meeting.  Possibly she could be helped or she could help the school, both of which are reasons to go.  And she could get more information about the school, which is not unhelpful and potentially useful.  [/quote]

Yes OP can be harmed by the meeting. She does not need to help the school, she does not need to get information about the school. None of what you suggested is helpful to the OP or her child. You are absolutely ridiculous. [/quote]

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