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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote] Since I studied engineering, I personally knew dozens of decent men whom girls of their age didn't even consider for dates. Fast forward 10-15 years and those men no more available to those women because they are all married with children. [/quote]
But...wait. Doesn't the point that those men are all married with children now, as you say, show that there were many women who did "settle" for them? And fairly early? If those guys aren't currently unmarried, that means that they found their matches, and yay for them and their families. They were not universally passed on -- perhaps the women who passed on them did so because they understood for whatever reason they would not make a good match. (For example, they did not "share their interests," which you put forward as if it is a minor issue but I think is actually fairly major. Isn't shared interests a building block of a strong relationship?)

Anyway, this conversation has taken a weird turn. I would posit that this situation is a bit more complicated than all these feckless women not seeing the decent men that are right in front of them, but it's way too complicated to get into in an anonymous message board and I doubt any minds would be changed.[/quote]

This argument is clearly between a lawyer and an engineer. The engineer is arguing logically and the lawyer is twisting things around. lol There are more women than men in the world. So naturally it's understandable that these engineer, geeky type of men will inevitably get married maybe. But it's true that lots of women in their 20's reject wonderful marriage material men because they're not hot enough, they are geeky, or for just superficial reasons. If a woman is waiting for that hot, wealthy type of husband, chances are hes not going to prove himself to be marriage material, no matter how much he professes his love for his 20 something year old girlfriend. The men that are loyal and good fathers and good providers are often times the men who aren't the best looking in the world or the ones who don't have the greatest bodies or who aren't the most athletic or popular. I am now pregnant with a girl and I plan to advise her to look for the marriage qualities in a man, not how hot he is, how great his body is, etc...[/quote]

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