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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Same kid here. ADHD. I do some monitoring but I hired a tutor to help organize and monitor. I agree that it shouldn’t be this way but for some kids it is.[/quote]

There are kids for whom ADHD becomes so overwhelming they do their work, but they can't find the work when it comes to turning it in because their life is so disorganized.  That's as good as never having done the work.  This is the level where professional therapy might help.  [/quote]

Or in case of my kiddo, they were doing all the work, turning it in, studying as best they could, going to tutoring, hired a private tutor for the science courses, attending office hours and ta hours, and still struggling.  when this happens, for most with ADHD, there is also some level of anxiety that kicks into overdrive and the kid needs outside guidance to help them from spiraling downward.  I helped guide mine to do best they could to overcome the issues (dropped one course as recommended taking the W rather than an F) and ultimately that included deciding to switch from what they had dreamed of being since they were 10 years old (PT).  I always knew it might not work out (PT school is as hard if not harder than Medical school, probably not the best place for someone who is smart but doesn't test well, has anxiety and lacks executive functioning, which translates to not being able to memorize large amounts of information in a small time frame...exactly what you needs for medical school/PT/OT school with so much information to learn). But while I knew that had to let the college freshman come to that conclusion themselves and then help them decide what new path to take.  For my kiddo, that was ultimately a 3+ hour discussion at 9pm the night before registering at 10am for fall semester sophomore courses (when kiddo got a test grade back and realized they were going to need to drop yet another required course ).  Kid was frustrated and spiraling and needed to find a path, but ultimately I just guided the discussion and allowed them to talk trhu it and decide on the next step.  Kid was the one who was waiting at the PT program directors offices (and then onto the new program directors office)  at 7:45am the next day to get paperwork processed so they could switch majors and make certain they registered for correct courses for their new major.  And you know what, my kid focused and did just that.  It was a stressful 12 hours that I knew was ultimately coming at some point, but who wants to crush their kid's dreams.  I let them give it a shot and realize for themselves (like the adult they are) that it wasn't a fun or desired path anymore.  Much more productive than me telling them that it wouldn't work out.  I would have given ANYTHING to have been wrong, but I'm momma and I had spent the last 18 years dealing with a slightly non-neurotypical kid so I knew what my role should best be.  
But no way was I gonna not help guide my college freshman!!  With my guidance they landed in a better place, are happy with their choices, and immediately began to do much better in school (and enjoy more of their courses).

With my younger kid, I likely wont go down any path like that.  They are extremely smart (academically and emotionally) and have a type A/go getter personality.  Their version of "failure" is getting a B+ or A-; academics have come very easily to them so far.   Personally I'm so happy they are not switched in positions, as I would really think something was "wrong" with my oldest if they arrived after the youngest.  This way I'm much more open minded to my kids and to other kids, as I have experienced the not neuro-typical kid and realize that everybody's path in life is difference and we need to celebrate what we have.  My oldest is on path for being a successful adult.  Graduating with a meaningful job.  Ready to be more independent.  Exactly what we should want in life for our kids [/quote]

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