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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yeah I would be annoyed.

My husband has signed my kids up for a few camps (it's a reversal of how our life normally goes because I'm a SAHM, but it happens when it's something to do with one of his interests, or he's friends with the dad of the kids' friends and they discussed it without the moms) and he always makes sure he can drive them or checks with me if we can split it or whatever. (This is getting them to sleep away camp in another state, or a longer drop off like the one you're describing.) For a local camp, I'll do all of the driving except in special circumstances. And actually he takes the kids to school in the mornings.  :oops: (I have chronic fatigue syndrome and school start time is an hour earlier this year . . . it works well his early bird tendencies and work schedule.)

So often something small can feel emblematic of a larger problem. If things are going well in your marriage, you should be able to say, "Hey, you did this without checking and it's impossible for my schedule," and he should feel really bad. If he doesn't, then I'd wonder about the relationship overall.

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He should feel really bad and he should have known this would not work, unless this is a brand new position or something! Everything about your OP and follow up suggest a massive respect imbalance. Why isn’t your job “important “??? Why can’t he take off a single day day of work or go in later or something so this is not entirely on you? I think it’s good for the kids to have an activity but unilaterally deciding you will figure it out is disrespectful and something I would really struggle with.

My DH dramatically out earns me but he would never in a million years do this. And yes I do the vast majority of the child care planning which I prefer to this bizarre situation. Practically speaking could you talk to your manager about a situation where you take every other day off officially but actually work 5 hours those days or log in at night for the week? Eating a week of vacation would make me really upset. I really think your husband should do some of this. [/quote]

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