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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]But...wait. Doesn't the point that those men are all married with children now, as you say, show that there were many women who did "settle" for them? And fairly early[/quote]

Actually - no. Ten years late (~33-35), when they dressed better and made much more money, they married younger women whom they knew (as far as such things can be known) who give them children. They passed on women from their generations, now 33-35, who didn't settle in time.

You appear to think that there is equal number of men and women on the marriage market, but there isn't - not for same categories of men/women. This is because, roughly, incoming young women compete for all men, but incoming young men only compete for incoming young women. So young women and older men have much more choices than young men and older women. Women should marry young (around 25) and men should wait (and marry around 35).

[quote=Anonymous]For example, they did not "share their interests," which you put forward as if it is a minor issue but I think is actually fairly major. Isn't shared interests a building block of a strong relationship?[/quote]

Not at all. Interests change over lifetime, while the need to plan and make decisions together will be with you every day for as long as you are married. What matters most are things you can't change - such as intelligence, responsibility and kindness. Those personality traits predict a lot (income, marriage stability etc). They are also highly heritable, so not only will your husband have them, but your children as well.[/quote]

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