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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The entitlement mindset today is mind blowing. [/quote]

Yes, but it was also unreasonable and unfair of the parents to be pushing this school from what sounds like childhood. This is why you don't start talking about specific colleges with your middle schoolers and early high schoolers, folks.[/quote]

OP here.  We actually were not pushing this school (were actually hopoing he would make a different choice) but since DH went there, and still has good frineds he made there we still spend time with, my son has had a positive association with it.  Layer on the fact several of his older friends from sports teams are current students and he just felt it was his place.  [/quote]

OP again, and I should have mentioned that they also have a great program for what he wants to study.  He was able to attend a class and visit with current students when we went for a tour last year which he loved.  [/quote]

OP; it sounds like you also wish your son were going to this school. You need to back down from your clear preference of this school . Your son didn’t get in. Done. Don’t focus on transferring there after a year like some have suggested- pekple will have their friend groups already and it will be a hard adjustment. Plus, he will be feeling like one foot is out the door his whole freshman year at the college who WANTS him. He needs to focus on the college that WANTS him. The other college doesn’t want him. He needs to treat it like a breakup. [/quote]

I'd add that you REALLY don't want to encourage a child to work hard to transfer to a specific school unless you do the research and confirm there's a decent chance she/he would be accepted as a transfer.  Some highly rejective schools take very few transfers -- giving a child what could be false hope would just magnify the disappointment and sense of failure if the transfer application isn't accepted. [/quote]

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