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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The first two years of the second child's life are tough, so just plan those out carefully with a nanny or whatever support system you can muster. Once you have a plan, it's easier. Once the kid turns 2, and even moreso once they turn 3, it's mentally and physically about as hard as one (in my experience). There is more logistics/shuttling to activities, but other than that it evens out because they do occasionally play together. We were on the fence and love having two now. They are 4 years apart, girl then boy.  Good luck, OP![/quote]

But you never know what it would have been like to have had one 7 year old, right? Our friends with one elementary kid have it MUCH easier than we do, and probably ever will.[/quote]

True but I do know that one 7 year old and one 3 year old is not that much harder than one 4 year old. Of course no one should be pressured into having a second (or first or third ) kid, I was just a sharing my perspective. There’s also no guarantee you won’t have an SN child but there are no guarantees in life generally so if you feel like your first would benefit from having a sibling and you feel like you WANT another, I’d say it’s worth it.[/quote]

NP.
I do think a 7 and 3 year old is much harder than one 4 year old.  And I definitely think two teens is harder than one.  I also don’t feel like it’s solely about what you want - I’d have had four kids if I thought about it that way!  There are a lot of other dynamics in play, from the physical toll on your body for another pregnancy to finances to managing to provide the best life you can for each child you bring into the world.[/quote]

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