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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think this is abusive.  It's just totally unnecessary and not good parenting.[/quote]
+1. Also, OPs post is dripping with resentment so it’s hard to get a read on whether he’s just making bad swing-and-a-miss dad jokes or actually being sincere.[/quote]

You wouldn’t resent someone who repeatedly treats you and your kids like this? [/quote]

NP. I think I’d be really annoyed to be guilted into attending practice when I had work to do. I wouldn’t have said what he did, but I’ve said a million times that I have a real job that pays the real bills but that means I have to actually work.

Also i run cold and I’d be really pissed if my wife opened the windows and When it was too cold for me. I mean, when you know that, you talk about opening windows before you do it.

These are terrible examples of OP is trying to show abuse. I thing the second shows how inconsiderate she is. [/quote]

Sure, but that's not how you (an assumed healthy person) would respond. You'd Say, "Lara, I'm sorry I can't make it today" and then separately, you'd tell your wife that you resent being put on the spot like that. You wouldn't punish your child by connecting their request for your attention to you getting fired. And you would discuss the temperature with your wife in a normal way as well.

The point isn't the examples- there are a million points of conflict that any couple has over time -- but its how he responded to it that is the problem.[/quote]

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