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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh honey. Can't you see what she's doing? Didn't you take Psych 101?

She is upset that you are moving away so she's picking a big fight to emotionally distance from you so it hurts less when you leave. No big deal. [/quote]

I agree generally, but this is not cool "This is because I texted her that my daughter has been crying all day because she missed her date with her grandma yesterday when grandma pitched a fit. This is 100% true, my daughter was very disappointed and I had no words to explain what happened." This is immature. You say Grandma had a conflict and you'll see her soon and move on. "Crying all day" and guilt tripping Grandma is an emotional power play and ridiculous. [/quote]

Op here- I agree that this is not something that is 100 percent kosher, but I have also swallowed a lot of crap with her acting badly and effecting my kids over the years and I am done with it. Actions have consequences. We were literally waiting for her to walk through the door, this was my daughters bday celebration with her. It was a deep hurt that grandma inflicted in that situation. This cannot be over stated. She needed to know this.

Wondering also, is my DH not standing up enough to her? [b]Why am I being targeted and he’s getting off easy.[/b] She’s literally saying it’s my fault that we’re leaving which is untrue. He is tired of her bad behavior over the years too and not so close to her. [/quote]

OP, my in-laws also blame me for the distance between them and our family, when in reality it is 100% my husband's choice, not mine (I said I'd back him with whatever he chose).

It is way easier for your MIL to put all the blame on your rather than to acknowledge that her own son isn't close with her. It's classic dysfunctional behavior. [/quote]

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