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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow. Helicopter parent alert. [/quote]

+1 I feel so embarrassed for parents like this.[/quote]

Don't.

When I was a freshman in college, my parents were the hands off, you are an adult you can figure things out type. (they paid for college though so I wasn't financing it on my own)

I thought that was great until the end of the first month when the newness of the experience of being at college wore off and things were getting harder. I watched my roommate and suitemates with involved parents and realized they had a support system that I lacked. That had someone to call who would help them with the little things.  Other freshman aren't really capable of being a support to another struggling freshman in the way an adult who is older is able to and of course one who loves and cares about you. Yes, there was a counseling center, advisors, professors but to be honest it was overwhelming to figure out how to get the best advice, from who, who talk to, and so on and I was nervous about admitting I needed help and was so unsure how to ask, I just didn't. Those with the involved parents just did better freshman year. They were happier.  They had help from someone who loved them.

So make fun all you want but I learned that being involved in that first year of college is really important. The level of involvement isn't needed for all years and the things that OP wrote are very often those little things that make a difference. 
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Are we at the personal anecdote portion of the thread?

I watched my roommate's incredibly intrusive mother contact her and visit constantly all year and felt bad for her.  She made a joke out of it and we were all in it but it was...a lot.  I called my parents once a week and did great.

The answer is likely the middle ground.  I don't think most people are suggesting dropping them off and going no contact.   But day-to-day involvement?  Probably not.  Help with basic level logistical tasks?  Probably not.  There as a sounding board to offer advice and help when asked?  Definitely yes. [/quote]

NP. My roommate probably thought of us as friends, but she was absolute hell to live with. Eventually my parents let me go home once or twice a month to get away from her.[/quote]

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