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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP it might be helpful to separate what he is attracted to from who you are and what you need to do, if that makes sense.

Most people are partnered with somebody who is not their ideal. A woman might find her husband less attractive after he goes bald, and that’s okay. That doesn’t mean that he needs to go get plugs, it just means he is that much less attractive to her.

Most men have an ideal body type, the one they are *most* attracted to. That doesn’t mean they need that from their partners and it doesn’t mean that their partners have to conform to that body type.

It’s okay that he is less attracted to you than he was. It’s a bummer, but it’s okay. He is probably less attractive too. The important thing is love, respect, and a collaborative approach to problem solving. [/quote]

Oh dear, I forgot to mention that your husband is an ass for telling you this in that way and it sounds like he has major issues. I honestly think he has some kind of insecurity and thinks that if he just had a hotter wife his life would be better. But even if you lose all the weight the problem won’t go away, so he’ll go looking for some other problem. Some guys get like that. [/quote]

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