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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband of 15 years asked me to lose weight.  He said that he wasn’t attracted to me and hadn’t been in a long time.  We have three kids.  I put on most of the weight while I was carrying my middle child and some other life things were going on at the same time.  But my youngest is in first grade now, so, while I put it on during pregnancy, it’s hard to claim that it’s baby weight.

Even still, I’m angry that he even asked.  I have gone through a lot with him and done a lot for him.  I am a fairly highly paid professional, a good mom, a good partner and friend to him, and a creative and fun sexual partner.  Why can’t he overlook this one thing?

So, I look at articles about weight loss and marriage, and I see that marriages improve, and people feel sexier and more confident.  But it’s been about three months, I have lost 20 of the 40lbs that he asked me to lose, and all I really feel is irritated and resentful.  And our sex life, like my daily meals, has stopped being a source of pleasure (and fantasy), and is now boring and monotonous at best.

Did anyone else experience this dip initially?  Did it eventually get better?[/quote]

His mistake was not being supportive of you. Your mistake was doing this for him and not for yourself. He sounds like an ass, not sure how to fix that. You need to get some self-confidence and live in a way that makes you happy. [/quote]

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