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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t think so tbh. You could hire a stylist to help with clothing though. [b]The internal bit of being deeply, generationally wealthy - entirely financially secure -  way down into you genes is not something you can acquire.[/b] [/quote]

I agree with this. I think the reason people are obsessed with looking wealthy (on this board and just in general) is because we see rich people and want to feel like that -- truly secure in your well being, and the well bing of your kids if you have them. [b]It's not exactly confidence (though it might also be that)[/b] -- there are poor people who are confident. [i][b]It's that sense of security.[/b][/i]

I saw a woman the other day who embodied that super understated rich person vibe. Her clothes were not showy at all -- a good quality raincoat from LL Bean or similar, nice straight cut jeans that were flattering and fit well and likely from a luxury brand, but no obvious branding or identifying marks. No socks, and good quality leather loafers -- they looked like they were from M.Gemi or similar but again, no obvious branding. She had long hair with a center part, it was healthy with a good cut but not styled. No makeup. Non-descript tote bag.

I could recreate her entire look tomorrow and it wouldn't even be unattainable for me financially. All in, it's probably less than 1k, including the haircut (excluding the jewelry, but again, it was so understated I don't even remember what it was -- probably a simple wedding band and some diamond studs). And I still wouldn't feel wealthy. I wouldn't even feel fashionable or pretty because there is nothing fashionable about this outfit. The reason this woman wore it well and it conveyed wealth is the WAY she wore it -- secure in the knowledge that she doesn't need to impress anyone with her clothes or style, that she can just wear good quality items that are comfortable and last, and it won't matter to her one way or the other if people like it or not.

[b]That's it. Security. If you are trying to figure out how to "look wealthy" you are by definition insecure (and I don't mean that in an insulting way, I mean that in a descriptive way -- most of us are insecure in some way, financially or emotionally, and it's often not really our fault) and can't achieve it.[/b][/quote]

These two comments are so on point and the absolute truth. I have a friend who became wealthy through several successful health care companies across the Northeast. She makes millions a year and Covid skyrocketed her wealth! She confided in me that she noticed how she has changed... internally, mentally, and spiritually. She also admitted that she realized how *out of touch* she is now when regular people talk to her about their problems. She literally can't relate. Furthermore, she said something similar to what was conveyed in the above comments... people can tell you're well off by just the way you move through life because you don't have financial worries like the average person and they begin to feel a type of way. By the way, this friend is a black woman.

Again, great comments! You're either wealthy or you're not. No point in trying to Look the part if you're not the part lol[/quote]

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