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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was very anti screen anti sugar when I had my first. My third child has candy often from parties, Halloween, Xmas, etc and I don’t care. When my oldest was 3, we had a friend whose daughter could bike up and down hills and I felt behind. My kids played tennis on a team but we didn’t spend that much effort while our friends had private coaches and were playing in tournaments. Now my kids are amazing bikers and play tennis all day.

There will be kids who excelled when they were young who don’t do much as teenagers. However, all the elite kids in high school all started when they were 5 or younger.

My husband pushes my kids at sports because they have raw talent and they enjoy it. It sounds like OP and her husband may not have anything specific they want their kids to try or do. This is the time to start.

I remember I once met a parent whose kid played ice hockey at age two! I thought she was joking when I met her but she wasn’t joking at all. My friends with kids in gymnastics seem to be pretty damn advanced by age 8.[/quote]

Oh dear[/quote]

Gotta start five years ago! Or you’re lame and forever behind and you ruined their potential! That’s the only way to live but jeez she’s just a custodian of raw talent maybe your kids lack raw talent mkay???[/quote]

I am the pp. my oldest is now 13. We were very low key all through elementary. The kids who excel in whatever they do did start early. Many kids try different things in elementary but few excel. I don’t want to say my kids are behind but we are currently at a spring training camp and the coaches were shocked at how little my kids trained for their age.[/quote]

Well that's a coach problem. Send them the stories about the rise in overuse injuries in the kids that specialize early and train too hard at a young age.

Or talk to psychologists about the problems caused by throwing kids into too many adult-led activities and sports so that they failure to develop important skills in self agency and independence.

The hard chargers may win in middle school or even high school, but life is a long game.[/quote]

My kids play plenty in my opinion. We are at a place that trains elite athletes. I’m very impressed by them. My kids are not close to that level or at least not yet. These are kids who will be college D1 players or be pro one day. My kids are not that level. These are kids will go to Stanford type schools though.

My children are play and are good at several sports. They enjoy playing. We don’t push them. I’m not athletic at all. They also play musical instruments and do academic extracurriculars. I try not to talk about these things to others because people seem to get competitive.[/quote]

“My kids will go to Stanford but these gross other parents get competitive, I must make them insecure because they’re not good or something I don’t get it.”

The self-awareness is the bow on the gift that is you, PP.[/quote]

I just said my kids aren’t at that level. The recruiter just went through the different tiers of athletes. There are some truly gifted athletes. My kids fall into the strong students with good athletic ability. The athletes are ranked so it is easy to see where you stand. I don’t expect my kids to be college recruits.

I know you are trying to knock us down for over working my kids but they love it. Kids who excel have to have passion for it.

Dh and I are both ivy educated. [/quote]

Do they not teach writing at your Ivys? They did at mine, and so I don’t share your struggle in trying to seem grounded while conveying the opposite.[/quote]

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