Reply to divorce from an adult child view

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "divorce from an adult child view"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m an ACOD and sorry but some of us act so entitled and dramatic. “My kids have to split time with three sets of grandparents? The horror! My selfish mother/father should have lived in misery forever.”

Divorce does sometimes, actually frequently, have a long-lasting, negative emotional impact on the kids which can impact marriages as adults. But really, a happy divorce is 100 times better than a miserable home life. Adults who divorce can and should make the effort to be the bigger person and have the most conflict-free divorce possible, and never say anything bad about their ex. If you do that, it might be an overall negative but it’s unlikely. And all the whining about holiday logistics is just something to ignore.

Marriage is hard for everybody and just because an ACOD has a hard time with it doesn’t mean it’s his parent’s fault. Everybody has to manage their own shit at some point.

[/quote]

I think most of the complaints come from ACOD of unhappy divorces and unhappy remarriages.  It's a lot to impose on your children and grandchildren of you're just going to end up as miserable as you were before.[/quote]

PP here and my parents’ divorce was actually really bad, and that was really hard for us. But my dad was miserable being married to my mom and I can’t imagine suggesting that he should stay in that misery just so that we could have a slightly easier life. I will say that he almost never said anything negative about my mom to us, even though there is a lot he could have said. And perhaps most importantly, we had at least one home where there was some stability and calm. So yeah the divorce was bad but it was better than them staying married for everyone involved. [/quote]

No, you're missing my point.  What if he ended up in another unhappy marriage? If your parents do end up happier, great, you're a lucky duck.  But if they don't, it's worse.  Divorce is rolling the dice.

[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics