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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe I just have an awesome DH? He earns just barely seven figures, and I also make a respectable $200k. He does bedtime and morning routine every day with our preschooler and I handle the baby. He does minor repairs around the house. He spends a large chunk of the weekends with the kids and also lets me sleep in weekend mornings since I’m doing the night feedings. He is not a good cook so I handle that. But he loads/unloads the dishwasher or throws in laundry whenever he sees the need. We do have a nanny who helps with housework during the week. And we lean on family to get a break.

What you are describing sounds pretty terrible and a bad example to set for the kids, OP.[/quote]

Op here. Dh does help clean up after dinner and take out the trash.

Does it matter how much he earns?
Would it make a difference if he earned 200k or 500k?

I’m often resentful but I know he is busy. If I ask him to do something, he often doesn’t do it so it is almost better not to ask him at all. When he is home, I get frustrated since he doesn’t know the routine and instead disrupts the routine. [/quote]

He just doesn't do it? Do you scream at him or take it like a wimp?[/quote]

I sometimes yell but not about housework. I do have cleaners.

I handle 95% of kid stuff.

I just know that I would still be responsible for the same things even if I go back to work.[/quote]

You’re right. Whoever said you’re making excuses is wrong. [/quote]

Plenty of families do manage it. It’s not impossible, but it would be harder while three kids are in three different schools, especially if they do after school activities or sports that require driving. You would need to be willing to hire help, which it sounds like you certainly can afford.[/quote]

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