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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No.

Cautionary tale here.  I desperately wanted to SAH and I really pushed for it with DH.  He relented and we tried it.  What I underestimated was the pressure and burden on him trying to make it work financially.  I also neglected to see the impact that it was having on his health and personality.  He resented me staying home and putting the burden on him and I resented him because he was not the same energetic, funny guy that I thought I married. What he really resented was that I changed the rules of the game AFTER the kids were here.  It was not something we discussed heavily before DD1 was born, so we did not really prepare for it.  We had a really rough time for 3-4 years.

Also, if a couple decides to put most of the financial burden on the DH (or breadwinning DW), the SAH should bear most of the child care/household burden – that’s the partnership aspect of it. IMO, a SAH cannot really complain because the WOH has worked a 10.5 hour day and won’t do night duty with a sick child
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Agreed.  Were you able to go back to work?[/quote]

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