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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think there has been a parenting change in the last ten or fifteen years and now when I watch parents of toddlers, I am struck by how much long-winded talking they do to very small children.  I mean long speeches about the shoes, or really complicated speeches to a toddler messing around in a sandbox, like, "I can see how you're getting dysregulated, you feel dysregulated don't you, that's why you're making poor choices, now if you keep making that choice you'll have to go inside." It seems both crazy tiring and also crazy ineffectual. It's exhausting even to overhear.

I am not saying we should treat toddlers like dogs, but it was actually a big parenting breakthrough for me when I realized my kids at 2 could only process one to two word instructions ("Shoes!" "No throwing!"). They could actually get that.  It was confusing for them when I hid the instructions in a pile of words. I watch parents with little kids and I want to say, it's obvious the kid isn't really taking in a single thing you are saying.[/quote]

It was happening 20+ years ago too. I remember one awful time lining up in the jetway to board a plane and a family with two littles behind me.  Kid runs up and starts banging on the switchboard that controls the jetway.  Mom has a lengthy talk with the 3/4 year old about how that’s not the right thing to do.   Could have killed me, as I was the person on the edge of the jetway, but whatever.  Same kid kicks my rolling suitcase all the way down the aisle.  Then when we find our seats, kids are literally jumping up and down on them.   I wasn’t a parent then and kept my mouth shut.  Having raised my own kids now I wouldn’t handle it the same way again. [/quote]

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