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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No concern re: your age and having a baby - just a note to say that most women's eggs are not high enough quality to make a baby after age 43. There are outliers, of course. Everbody's heard a story about so-and-so's grandmother who had babies at age 50.....  But after age 43, it is very common that reproductive endocrinologists will recommend that a woman/couple looking to conceive use donor eggs due to the high risk of miscarriage or fetal chromosomal abnormalities.[/quote]

This. It’s biology. Some women have poor eggs period and others have better eggs for longer, but there is a fairly uniform decline in both our egg quality and quantity as we age…I am 34 and have two and am freezing my embryos, because I know that I want a third and I want to have some peace of mind that if I want to get pregnant at 37 or 38 that my eggs will be better quality.

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But that's the thing ...as you say, some women DO have better eggs for longer. They just do. (I was one of them, thankfully.) And you have no way to know unless you try. 
It's like how becoming a successful actor/artist/author/whatever is almost impossible, especially after a certain age. Except - someone is going to succeed. Even older someones succeed. And you might have what it takes. Some people look at the average rate of success in anything as a reason not to even try for something that matters to them. But some people want it badly enough that they just go for it, despite the odds. Yes, the odds are against them. They probably won't succeed. But they might. Unless they don't try, in which case the odds are zero and they will spend their whole lives wondering, what if I'd just given it a shot?

Short version: as long as the odds aren't a confirmed 0, if a thing is important to you, then you might as well try. And in a world where people can die at 25 or live to 105, as long as you're healthy heading into middle age, then you're not "too old" for anything you're physically capable of doing.[/quote].

As someone that had recurrent pregnancy loss for 4 years, no, it’s not as easy as just going for it. Trying and failing, and losing pregnancies, takes a toll on your physical and mental health, and your relationships. It’s easy to say you’ll stay detached, but when it’s your body, that’s easier said than done.[/quote]

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