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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - I am so sorry for your loss.

My sister died 20 year ago and I honestly still haven't figured this out.  I usually deflect.

The one question I really struggle with is "do you have any siblings?"  What do I say?  "Yes, but she passed feels so loaded.  But I would never say no - I did have a sibling.  I am not an only child (though I have since been described that way and it breaks my heart).[/quote]

I’m sorry for your loss!  I struggle with that too.  I usually say that my older brother died several years ago. I might lighten it a bit by saying something like: “You can probably tell that I’m the baby of the family” which easily shifts most conversations. 
I would never say that I’m an only child. Some of the deepest parts of my self / identity have grown out of being my brother’s sister. [/quote]

Thanks for that advice. I like it.

I find it a slightly harder question to answer when there are only two (but hard regardless) because any follow up questions don’t lend to a vague response (e.g. does she live nearby?).

And yes, the only child comments are so difficult. [/quote]

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