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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't know.  Just be frank and concise.  You have nothing to be ashamed of and nothing to hide.  Just say "Sad to say he O.Ded."  I am sure the nosy busy bodies will change the subject but if not feel free to answer as extensively and graphically as you want.  It's not your dark secret and it's not your shame.  It just happened because it happens to a lot of people.  It is what it is [/quote]

Honest question, do you do this in front of your kids? I’m a PP who lost a sibling to suicide before my children were born and we have not explained the details of how they died to our kids (who are still very young). I have spoken to my therapist about it and thought you generally don’t have that conversation until at least upper elementary school if you can help it. Hence my willingness to be vague even if people assume.[/quote]

PP - I may be wrong but I doubt some answering this thread have experienced a sudden/untimely loss of a immediate family member.

In my case (death related to MH, but not a suicide or OD), we started giving details in upper elementary. My kids are teens now and can speak about her death without trauma but also with a full understanding of what occurred. But under no circumstance would I give the (very grisly) accounting of her death to others just to shut them up. Her death, and the terrible details surrounding it, are not a means to shut up busy bodies. [/quote]

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