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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My child is not at a Big 3 and is not a straight A student.  He does like to continue his academic work in the summers and after school.  We would never discourage this because of your myopic opinions.  Your child sounds like a genius from your description...straight A, Big 3, non-academic work after school and in the summers.  Why does your child even bother with school and education?  [/quote]

PP here.  Maybe my perspective is different because my DC is in upper school but non academic work after school and in the summers is the norm, not the exception.  of course all these kids have tons of homework and my DC does her homework.  But she also reads, goes on facebook, hangs out with her friends.  You don't want that for your child?  Seriously?  She's bright, but I wouldn't say she's a super genius.  The key is that she loves learning and has found academic passions and I truly believe that happened because it came from within and her parents didn't schlep her to kumon and make her do worksheets.

And because she's in upper school I can see the difference between the children of the tiger moms and the ones who succeed without the "enrichment".  The kids whose parents have pushed and pushed, the tiger moms, fall into two categories.  Some feel like failures because even though they are good students they aren't the very best students.  Others are very successful and speak openly about how hard their parents push them -- they are unhappy and other kids feel sorry for them.  Then there are the kids who do well on their own, without being pushed.  They are well respected by the other kids, who see it as natural talent and not artificially constructed by their parents.  And finally there are all the other kids, who do fine and aren't pushed and may not be the stars of their class.  They are the ones who will ultimately be the most successful.  I know this because I went to a Big 3 school and I saw this happen over and over again.  The most successful adults were not the kids at the top of the class.

So just know that the way you "mentor" your child will be known by the other kids in their class as well as their teachers.  This is not always a good thing.[/quote]

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