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[quote=Anonymous]	I get it, op. Having pictures of bruises sent to you, then being told your friend can’t call the police is upsetting. I can understand her saying “Hang onto these pictures in case something happens to me, my phone, the cloud backup” but “Here are pictures of bruises, I can send them to you, but I just can’t call the police, the people who are the gateway of putting the bastard away, no, I just can’t or won’t call them, I’ll call you instead, another woman who doesn’t have the tools or resources to do much”.. I’d be thinking “You can take pictures and text, so you can talk to the outside world, but you can’t call the people who’s purpose in life is to at least start the process”. That’s scary as hell to see something like that appear on your phone.   We are taught since childhood to “help a friend” but rarely are we given the tools to do it in situations like this.    
My guess too is that there is nonsense around your appearing in court, your work doesn’t matter, your kids don’t matter, nothing but being there for your friend when needed does. That’s fine.. once, after that the lawyer and court need to help you out, depositions and the like. Your friend is the victim if this is taken on face value, where is the help that victims’ families and friends get?

Have you talked to the lawyer or his/her paralegal?  Do you know what you are allowed to say and do and when?  If not, I’d not help, either this is on the up-and-up or it isn’t. 
The fact that your friend is*asking* you, v. you being subpoenaed makes me think this is just a bad custody fight.  You have every right to know why the husband’s convictions aren’t being used against him, and why you are being asked not told using court processes, being served with a subpoena to appear.

For those of you saying you’re a bad person, a bad friend, that they’d help in a minute, you are logging onto this site of your own volution. You’re choosing what to click on and what to respond to. You are physically safe.  You are here because you want to be here. The OP falls under the category of victim too in a sense, she deserves care and compassion too. 
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