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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is this child bullying her? If not, she needs to toughen up. [/quote]

Seems like the child is bullying the entire class. Also seems like the child isn't being served either. [/quote]

If the child has some type of disability they are not bullying the class, they are unable to control themselves and that leads to disruptions to the class. I get that people are worried about all the students in the class but try not to be so callous as to not understand that most kids do not want to disrupt everything around them. Whatever is happening, it is likely that the child is struggling with dysregulation and needs help. It is scary for the other kids but it is not intentional.

The posters who are suggesting that the child was moved to a different class as part as the schools process to evaluate and record what is happening so that the school can move the child to a more appropriate environment are probably spot on. It is not as simple as noting some behaviors and moving a kid, there is an entire process. It is a pain in the butt for the student, the classmates, the Teachers, and the Administration.

And it sucks for the OPs kid. which is why the OP emailing the Teacher with a message about how her child's education is impacted is important. It gives the Teacher additional info to provide the Administration about the child's impact and can help the process along. But the email needs to focus on the experience of the OPs child, her responses to the disruptions, and stay neutral on the other child.

It sucks for all. It really does. OP should be focused on her kid and is doing the right thing but there is no reason for adults to be referring to a kid who is out of control for god knows what reason as a bully and assuming that the disruptive child wants to be behaving like this. [/quote]

While I have a lot of sympathy for the child, I have a child who was a victim of one of these children regularly.  My child goes to the nurse at least once/month for injuries from the child in his class.  My child has been hit in the head by books, has been strangled because he checked out a book at the library that the other child wanted and the child strangled him to make him give up the book.  My child has been bled from having a chair thrown at him that hit him in the head.  My child has been kicked and has had black and blue bruises from this child.

While the school must serve them, I do expect the school to protect my child from this  I spoke with the teacher on a number of occasions and the teachers have finally moved my child to the opposite side of the room from the disruptive child.  At least now, he no longer comes home injured on a regular basis.

OP--you need to get your child's teacher involved and you need to explain the effect that the migrated student is having.  While the teacher cannot move the child out of the class, they can and should do what they can to insulate the other children from the migrated student where possible.  Perhaps just moving the children so that your child is sitting on the opposite side of class will help her if the disruptive child is not near by.  But, you need to involve the teacher so they can do what is within their power to help as many children in the class as possible.  But the parents need to communicate with the teacher so the teacher knows which children need more help.  [/quote]

I would have demanded a class change or kept my kid home. [/quote]

That PP is clearly a troll or exaggerating like crazy. No school district would allow that. No parent would allow it to get that way.[/quote]

I am not a troll.  The situation I described happened over the course of 2 months.  At first my son didn't want to tell me about the incidents.  He actually likes the other kid, just doesn't like "his tantrums".  He didn't want to bet moved out of his class and he didn't want the other boy to get into trouble.  The book thrown at his head, the strangling fight over the book, and a few other incidents happened before he told me.  When the nurse called, I was told that he was hit in the head, had an ice pack, was monitored and sent back to class.  Because of privacy rules, they were not allowed to tell me that all of the incidents were from one child, so I thought it was just a rough classroom and these were "kids being kids".  It was when I noticed the bruises on his legs from when he was kicked that I started asking about what was going on and then I asked my son if they were all one kid and was told it was.

Now, mind you, my son has been in class with this child since 1st grade due to tracking.  However, in first and second grade, they had a para-educator assigned for him that was in class and monitored and helped this child.  3rd grade, we were entirely virtual.  This year, they were short a couple of paraeducators in our school and so he was not assigned one  That was a big mistake.  When I finally figured out that it was all one child and I talked to the school counselor and my child's teacher, they pulled a paraeducator from another class and assigned it to my son's class.  This teacher (who I know, because she lives in my neighborhood) is now assigned daily to help monitor this student and help in class.  She has reached out to me and asked me to keep her in the loop if my son tells me about anything unusual or dangerous happening in class and she will address it personally.

Unfortunately, I know that our school is still short of paraeducators and having one assigned to our class daily, means that somewhere else, some other child or children are not getting the attention that they need, but that's not my concern or problem to deal with.[/quote]

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