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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  I want to add that I went to a private school for my entire childhood, and I had a completely opposite social experience.  Similar to this private school, kids lived all over, and my best friends all lived at least 25-30 minutes away from me, but back then people didn't seem as averse to driving as they do now.

My child has made 3 best friends in the class, and while we have invited these kids to meet up several times, there has been no reciprocation.  We have invited these kids to meet up at parks/playgrounds with the parent.  The other families always say yes to the invites, but there has been no reciprocation.  I don't really understand why.

Anyhow, we are signed up for another year but my thought is that if we continue to feel like we have no sense of community then I don't see why we should continue to pay tuition for this experience.

I feel a lot of whole-school community but none with the other families in my child's specific class.  The entire grade only has 30 kids.[/quote]

OP, some parents just aren’t as focused or proactive about play dates right now.  I think the fact that you describe your child as shy means you’re more concerned about her getting social time.  Parents of more extroverted children or kids who have well-established friendships are probably less concerned and putting less effort into organizing play dates right now. Me included.

Also, your child may consider those three girls besties, but they may feel less close to her.  I set up play dates based on my kids’ asks. As nice as your daughter is, the other kids may not be asking to have play dates with her.

I would check in with her teacher and ask what they observe about her social interactions.

Also, if you’ve been there less than a year and are thinking of leaving because there’s “no community,” you are seriously immature.  Community takes time to establish. People barely know you right now. Perhaps it’s your sense of pushiness/neediness, combined with a sense of entitlement that is putting people off?

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Pretty rude to call the OP immature, I would say your reasoning indicates you are immature and use of the word “besties.”  [/quote]

OP, anyone who is going to leave a school because they don’t have a community 6 months after starting at a school is immature.  Even in non-Covid times.  [/quote]

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