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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I care way more about how much sex we are having and how enthusiastic she is. Would much rather be doing it frequently and enthusiastically with a heavier wife than one who is thin but had no interest[/quote]

Is this really true for most men?  I have gained about 30 lbs since we were married 15 years ago.  We have four kids, but the youngest is in second grade, so it’s hard to call it baby weight. 
I have always been pretty enthusiastic about sex, and sex with my husband specifically.  Lately though, I have been feeling like he would prefer that I put that energy into losing the weight rather than our love life.  [/quote]

30 pounds is a lot. I have also been married 15 years and my youngest is 5. I have gained 10. I was up 15-20 during Covid and back down to 10 over pre kid weight. I’m putting effort into losing it but isn’t really going anywhere. I may just have to accept that at age 44 I am 10 pounds heavier than at age 29.[/quote]

It is a lot, but I’ve never been obsessive about my weight at all.  And I’m just finding it hard to care about losing it.  I feel like I’m 40 now, not 25.  So what if I’m a size 12 instead of a size 8?[/quote]

It depends on the relationship. I care a lot about 10lbs of weight gain, and my husband would definitely care about 30lbs of weight gain. If your husband does not care, and you don't care, it does not seem like a problem at all. [/quote]

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