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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You save 90% of what you make?  You are cheap.[/quote]

OP here. That’s was bit of exaggeration but I save majority of my money. I live in a paid off condo my parents bought as their vacation home in VA. I make roughly $400k and live on about $40k a year. I have no debt and don’t buy things I don’t need. I pay them a small rent fee, utilities, household necessities, food, and phone bill. I spend roughly 2500-3000k a month. Some months I spend more. I’ve been able to save a ton during the pandemic with everything closed down. I’ve been able to save a large amount of money by living like this. [/quote]

There's frugal, and there's cheap, and well, I think you're running the risk of being more the latter than the former (and I say this as a wealthy but frugal person).  However, none of that matters.  What matters is that your fiance and you do not see eye to eye on some pretty major life decisions.  You can sit down and talk it out and see if there can be a meeting of the minds, or you can decide this is really not going to work out long-term.  Either way requires doing some more difficult, grown-up things.  Good luck, OP.[/quote]

You keep calling OP cheap but there is nothing wrong with living within your means and saving for the future. Too many people spend all of their money or love beyond their means and end up in debt.

I lived on $30k/year in my twenties while I went to nursing school for my BSN and masters. I was able to save and pay off $100k worth of loans in two years. I lived this way until I was married and was able to save over $500k by 30 years old. Most of co-workers bought huge expensive gifts and are still paying off SL.

I would rather be OP and live well below my means, than to spend all my money or be in a bunch of debt.[/quote]

There can be a happy medium.  I mean, would it make sense for a broke college student to subsist on Ramen?  Yes.  Would it make sense for a guy making 400K to do so?  That would be cheap.  That’s the equivalence here.  OP is basically the modern day equivalent of my aunt, who owns multiple rental properties and has millions in savings, but lives in a crime infested neighborhood and only wears second hand clothing, including undergarments.  That’s well beyond living well within one’s means.

Anyway, categorization doesn’t matter here.  OP has some adulting to do.[/quote]

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