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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t think it’s unusual.  The only thing that seems unusual to me is how it’s being said. 
[b]Just last night, I had some work to do, and I didn’t want to do the bedtime routine.  I told DH, he offered to put the kids to bed.  Today, I will finish work early since I was doing it last night, and I will make dinner.

I would also say that sex that’s out of my typical comfort zone is kind of implied during a weekend away.  Not anything painful, but I pack some lingerie and things that I wouldn’t normally wear at home.  [/b]

I don’t know if your spouse is controlling or if you just aren’t picking up on the idea that you need to reciprocate, so he is being direct and telling you how to reciprocate.  
This kind of reminds me of the ubiquitous holiday posts where women share that they told their spouse exactly what gift to get them for the holiday.  If you take it out of context, it could sound wierd and controlling, but in context, it’s just a way of making sure that their needs get met in the relationship.   [/quote]

That’s just regular married person stuff. You pick up the slack for each other, you take turns, and vacation sex is a little special. The problem is when it’s bean counting, mandated stuff.[/quote]

Right.  I can’t tell if the bean counting is because OP was never taking her turn, so her spouse resorted to bean counting or if her spouse was afraid that she wouldn’t take her run because of his previous marriage or something else.  
Whatever it is, as far as marriage issues go, it seems like one that you could resolve pretty easily.  [/quote]

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